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Almost everyone you know has gone through at least one breakup in their life, possibly more, even you might have gone through the same. Sometimes it can be hard to understand why what appears to be a beautiful, healthy relationship ends in complete and utter chaos. The practice is becoming more and more common in today’s society. Divorce rates have gotten higher compared to previous generations. Let’s try and get to the bottom of such disintegration.

Lack of Communication

Communication is a cornerstone of a healthy bond between two people. The first and most common reason most long-lasting relationships fail is miscommunication or lack of communication. This happens when two people cannot effectively get through to each other and fail to understand what the other person wants to tell them.

A lack of communication can drive a wedge between two people. They end up withdrawing from constructive discussions and become passive-aggressive towards each other. They may also engage in cyclical arguments and get defensive. Conflict can do severe irreversible damage to a relationship. Expecting that the partner will be able to read your mind or decipher your body language to figure out what you feel is humanly impossible and a recipe for disaster.

A relationship where two people don’t feel safe and comfortable is extremely unhealthy and toxic. People in such relationships exhibit misdirected anger at each other, worsening the situation. Not caring for accountability, refusing to listen, hesitation from apologizing, and apathy towards your partner all lead to miscommunication and misunderstandings. Communication gaps also contribute to feelings of inadequacy, insecurities, loneliness, and a negative opinion of your partner.


Some people just aren’t meant to be together, and no amount of physical chemistry will change that. No matter how hard you try to make it work, if you have too many differences, it’s very likely the relationship will not last.

There are multiple ways in which two people may differ from each other. These reasons could be that one of them is extroverted and the other introverted, one having an anxious attachment and the other avoidantly attached. There could also be religious or political differences, mismatched senses of humour, differing love languages, or even varying sex drives.

A lack of compatibility can make it nearly impossible for a relationship to work, and even if you manage to make it work, both of you might end up sacrificing your morals and values. A refusal to compromise adds to strife. Understanding your significant other and having them know you is the foundation of a healthy bond. When you think about the future, you should ensure you and your partner are on the same page. When it comes to intellectual capacity and emotional intelligence, you should be on the same wavelength.


Often, two people just aren’t on the same page. They have different perspectives on important decisions like finances, marriage, kids, and so on. They could also have different life goals and relationship goals. Having an age difference can cause problems when they’re trying to communicate or understand each other. Due to having different life experiences and maturity levels.

Pegging outlandish expectations on each other is an absolute deal-breaker. One of you could be looking for a casual no-labels attachment, while the other could be wanting a serious long-term commitment. One of you might be monogamous, and the other could be polyamorous; an irreconcilable difference.

A refusal to be open and clear about your expectations can be disastrous. Even small things like having no common interests can make a relationship fall apart in the long run. If you have different expectations, you won’t be able to be yourself when you’re with your partner.

Trust Issues

Trust and transparency are factors that hold two people together. A relationship not built on trust can fall apart very quickly. When you don’t trust your partner, you will likely exhibit irrational jealousy and possessiveness over your partner. You may develop an urge to control the other person and try to make the decisions for them. You could become skeptical and suspicious about your partner and their intentions.

This may result from you or your partner being dishonest, keeping secrets, lying to each other, and worrying about infidelity. And if one of you has cheated, there is no way to gain back broken trust. Decade-long relations can be shattered in minutes, and there is no going back.


If you don’t accept and love your partner for who they are, they are not the ‘right one. You’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Nobody is perfect, and nobody will ever be able to match unrealistic standards

Trying to change someone is counterproductive to making them feel comfortable around you. Comparing your partner to someone else or your relationship to someone else’s is a bad idea. Your partner might feel resentful towards you if you don’t accept them the way they are.

Bottom Line

Obviously, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. If the bad moments outweigh the good ones, it’s time to pause, take a good look at yourself and your partner, and reflect on your relationship. There are still ways a broken relationship can be healed if you know how to go about.7Secrets to What Makes Love Last by Arturo James Daly is an excellent book with guidelines one needs to fix their love life. The book can be a saving grace for couples trying to keep their relationship or marriages from falling apart. If your relationship is healthy, this book is still helpful because it aids in sustaining, improving, and fortifying your relationship. Happy reading!